Stepping into conflict

Stepping into conflict

conflict-resolution-300x262Last night I closed my eyes more times than I’m willing to admit while attempting to reach my goal of 10K words for the NaNoWriMo marathon, which took place yesterday.  10K was scaled back to 3K for a whole lot of reasons that I don’t feel I should revisit today.  There’s nothing to be gained from dwelling on it.  So I shall not do it!

I greeted this morning with congestion and a slight cough.  They are close friends with chilly air and falling leaves.  I had to use all three nasal sprays just to be able to take a deep breath, but  there was no time to be sick or even acknowledge that something wasn’t quite right within.  Attending church with my parents was a given.  I had to pull myself together, and I’m so glad I did.  As usual, I chose to participate in my parent’s sunday school class.  Everyone in the class is at least 20 years older than me, and I’m alright with that.  I tend to avoid my own age group altogether.  Somehow sitting in a room with a bunch of people my age doesn’t excite me, not in this setting.  However, I consider being in the presence of elders when they are discussing life’s lessons a privilege.

Today’s topic was about stepping into a situation to help someone, particularly when you can see things getting worse.  Stated another way, the discussion focused on what it takes to help resolve conflicts between others.  I think this is something that anyone can relate to because conflicts are an inevitable part of life.  Learning how to resolve them seems like an essential life skill, but when the conflict involves others, sometimes people hesitate to get involved.   The class discussed one reason for this:  the fear of loss.  Stepping into a conflict can be risky.  You can’t be certain of what you are getting into, and you have no way of knowing what the outcome will be.  Courage is a must.  Other characteristics the class identified as key for a peacemaker or negotiator are:  discernment, compassion, objectivity, trustworthiness, and the ability to listen.

Reflecting on the discussion, I am reminded that I need to listen more and talk less in situations involving conflict.

Day 10: 20296 words

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